Meeting Denise last weekend was extra special. As some of you know, we met via email through our shared experience of (in)fertility. As much as every friend of mine helped and supported me during those years, there was nothing like having someone to walk alongside who knew firsthand what it was like. We could share the ugly stuff of it, the jealousy, the anger and the fear and know we were completely understood and held.
At one point we talked about what it would be like when it happened to one of us first (we have never doubted that we will both have our babies eventually) We agreed that we didn’t know how we would feel, that we might feel jealous or want to pull away, and that those feelings were okay. We had room in our friendship for all of it.
Although our journeys are slightly different now, Denise said it well, “I still feel as though our roads are side by side.” I am in awe of the power of deep connection and friendship. It can hold more than we could ever imagine.
And I so look forward to the day when I get to hold Denise and Carsten’s baby in my arms.