This is my friend Rachel Cole and it was her birthday this weekend. She is a lovely human! and a fantastic coach if you are looking for that sort of thing.
As I move toward my fortieth birthday this November (how on earth is this possible?) I am noting how people celebrate themselves. Do they throw a big party? Do they pretend it’s not their birthday? Do they just let people send them Facebook wishes all day? Do they travel somewhere exotic or have a quiet brunch with friends?
As a life coach, I can’t help but notice how our values are wrapped up in everything we do (including birthdays) and how, when we align ourselves with those values, pure pleasure is possible. Take Rachel for instance. She invited a small group of friends to her home for a birthday brunch. The table was beautifully set with a red polka dotted table cloth and colorful dishes. She was dressed in gorgeous colors and there was a station set up so that her guests could make ravioli. When I arrived, the sangria and homemade pesto were in process. It was pure deliciousness, everything about it.
As I get older, I seem to be making peace with who I actually am. For example, I always think I should have a big party and then never enjoy my own birthday parties! 40 years later, I might consider a different way… I’ve learned that brunch is a better time of day for me, that smaller groups make me happier than large ones, that I don’t like to be the center of attention, that it makes me the happiest when I am offering an experience for all of us to enjoy.
How did you celebrate a big birthday? and what made it truly nourishing? I’ll be filing away your ideas for my big day this year!
Also, I cannot thank you enough for your generous comments and emails regarding my last post. Your words have been a gift and I am letting them soak in slowly. My heart is full. Thank you SO much.