For the last several weeks, I have been plagued with a question.
The following refrain has been playing over and over in my head. All feelings are mutual. All feelings are mutual. All feelings are mutual.
I can feel the truth of it in my bones.
And yet, I can’t figure out what it means. Why is this message is coming to me now? Why does it feel so important to wrap my head around it?
And so I did something really smart –I reached out to one of the wise teachers in my world and asked. What the heck does “all feelings are mutual” mean? Turns out she was exactly the right person to ask.
Here is Karen Maezen Miller’s beautiful response below:
How nice to hear from you. You approach me with gratitude for my words, and I respond to you with equal gratitude. That’s what it means. We all know what this means by our own experience:
If I am cranky, the world reflects my crankiness.
If I am angry, the world returns my anger.
If I am critical, the world returns my small-mindedness.
If I am non-judgmental, the world accepts me.
If I smile, someone smiles back.
And so on.
We see and receive whatever we project.
And just so we don’t feel as if we are carrying the blame for all the negativity, just observe and respect that everyone is suffering. That’s what we share most of all!
This is not a philosophy. It really works like this.
But we have to see it for ourselves and take responsibility for ourselves. If we are the least bit aware, we will be careful with what we give to the world. It will always return to us, because of the physical reality of the universe. Although it looks like we are separate, we are not. We share everything; we are like waves in an ocean. If an ocean is poisoned, every wave carries the poison, no?
I have read her message over and over to myself. I have read it out loud to a friend and to nobody in particular. And I’m just now beginning to understand it in a deep way. It feels as if spirit has been smiling down on me, whispering in my ear, and then leading me to the perfect interpreter.
With her permission, I wanted to share it with you. Does it resonate for you as well?
Thank you Karen for your generosity + wisdom. A thousand times thank you…